Blindsided. Whew, I guess that's life isn't it? A blindside hit is one of the worst things that can ever happen to a human being. To have life going a certain direction, and then the least expected thing happens, the least expected person gives you the least expected news. It's 3AM on the first of May. Yes, I waited this long to write this blog because I didn't know what to say. Initially, I was going to write about how Job was blindsided and how we should react how he did by believing that God gives and takes away, but once I wrote the first word, I knew that this blog had to go in a different direction.
A blindside hit only brings one main thing: pain. The worst of pain. Pain that can seem to pierce your heart in a way that nothing else can, causing a longing, anxious hurt. People asking what is wrong and due dates flashing by. Your life goes on but you can't seem to move with it at all. You are too struck by the pain that at the pit of your honestly you wonder if you will ever be able to walk through life again. And in the midst of that pain, it's very difficult to have any sort of hope in a brighter future. The Bible tells us that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord (Romans 8:28). But you're allowed to be honest when reading this. Isn't that verse from Romans hard to believe? I think it is. Especially when experiencing the aftermath of a blindside hit.
So where do we turn? What do we do? When life doesn't make sense? When the unpredictable, the unbelievable happens...
If I'm being totally honest with you, there's no perfect answer to that question. "Wait. What? You don't know? Then what are you writing this blog for? Why am I reading this?" There's only one way back from a blindside hit: Christian community. Hello Church. Hello honesty. To be honest with someone within a Christian community, a close friend, family member, teacher, mentor, counselor, etc. is the only way to recovery. To understand that everyone has a story, and that other people have been there before. That's the only way to cope with it. When you turn to yourself, you are left to nothing but empty answers and wondering thought, but where two gather in the name of the Lord, He is there also (Matt. 18:20). I'm here to tell you today that if you are an adult (young or old), a teenager, a young kid, who gets/got blindsided, you are not alone. There is a healer in Christ, and only in Christ. And I know you cannot seem to hear Him over your tears, but He is present, and when you are in the presence of another, you will find that He can speak directly into your heart.
There is no way back to where you were, only a path to somewhere new. Take baby steps...with others by your side... And over time you will find yourself on a new path, as God works for your good.
Hunter Kallay, author of "Plug in Your Life." He is a Christian leader and speaker.